“Because I Said So”: The Art of Setting Tasks for Your Submissives

Siren Sidhe
May 9
3 min read

How to keep them busy, buzzy, and beautifully obedient.

So. You’ve got a submissive. Maybe they’re new and needy. Maybe they’re seasoned and smirking. Either way, they’ve got that look—you know the one. The “Please tell me what to do or I’ll get creative and make poor choices” look.

Good. That’s where task-setting comes in.

A properly placed task isn’t just busywork. It’s control with a bow on top. It builds structure, deepens connection, and—let’s be real—it's hot watching your submissive squirm as they report back, hoping for praise... or punishment.

Let’s get into the sassy science of it.

🧠 Why Give Tasks at All?

Because you're the one in charge, and power without direction is just chaotic bisexual energy.

Tasks reinforce the power exchange outside of playtime. They create continuity. They say, “I see you. I expect things from you. I’m watching.” (Mmm. That last part gives them chills. And if it doesn’t? They’re probably a switch.)

📝 What Makes a Good Task?

A task should be…

Clear – No, “be better” is not a task. Be specific. Do you want a photo, a journal entry, a folded load of laundry, or them wearing a butt plug while they bake banana bread?
Contextual – Fit the mood. Sexy? Ritualistic? Nurturing? Punitive? Bored on a Wednesday and want to see them in frilly socks vacuuming to Taylor Swift? Do it.
Scalable – Light tasks for new dynamics. Heavier ones as trust builds. Don’t give them a “72-hour edging challenge” if you haven’t even learned their job schedule yet.
Measurable – “Make me proud” is a concept, not a command. “Send me three gratitude notes by 9 PM” is a command.

🍑 Examples for Every Flavor

🔥 Sexy Tasks

Wear a plug for 2 hours and write a reflection on how it changed your posture.
Record yourself saying “I belong to you” 10 times. Moan once between each.
No orgasms till Saturday. I want a spreadsheet of every time you wanted to.

🧽 Service Tasks

Organize your closet. Send before/after pics with a collar on.
Make me a playlist. Every song must describe your submission.
Write a love letter… to your favorite cleaning product. Get poetic.

🧠 Mindset Tasks

Meditate for 5 minutes and message me what your bratty little brain did.
Compliment yourself 3 times out loud. No sarcasm. (Yes, this will hurt.)
Read a chapter of a kink book and send me your top 3 takeaways.

😈 Punishment Tasks (Consensual, of course)

Write “I will not touch myself without permission” 50 times.
Cold shower. Record a voice memo right after. I want to hear the regret.
Spank yourself to a rhythm I pick. Record the sound. No fake yelps, babe—I know.

🧩 Layering Tasks Into Play

Tasks can build into scenes. Want a denial-heavy weekend? Start Friday with a “no panties in public” rule. Want a cathartic release? Assign daily journaling to prime the emotional pump.

Submissives often crave direction—especially the overachievers, the perfectionists, the people-pleasers. Giving them a task says, “I know how to guide you. You’re safe with me. Also, kneel.”

💌 Feedback, Praise, and… Consequences

Tasks mean nothing without response. Ignoring their effort? That’s not Domly™—that’s just rude.

Praise their obedience.
Correct their mistakes.
Punish their defiance (only if consensual, duh).
Ask how the task made them feel. Submission isn’t just a performance—it’s an experience.

Your attention is the reward. Your disappointment? Devastating.

🚩 What Not to Do

Don’t overload them with a dozen tasks just to feel powerful. That’s called being a bossy toddler, not a Dominant.
Don’t use tasks to passive-aggressively fix them. This isn’t Dom-flavored therapy.
Don’t forget aftercare if the task hits emotional triggers.
Don’t assign tasks without checking your own availability to follow up. Accountability goes both ways, babe.

✨ Final Thoughts

Tasks are foreplay, power play, love notes, and behavioral reinforcement wrapped into one delightful little Dominant package. They’re structure for the submissive soul, and a delicious way to flex your control when the flogger’s packed away.

So assign that challenge. Make them squirm. Let them know that obedience isn’t just expected—it’s adored.

And if they sass back?

Make their next task even harder. 😈